Last night I was talking to a friend about the flirtatiousness of being in business: the leaning into it, do I want them, do they want me, the contact, the thrill of anticipation.  Last month I wrote a short piece about this very thing- you can check it out here. 

And, within seconds, I felt the rush of passion.  You know the one that starts deep within, as I spoke more about it.  The sensation that I got just thinking about the excitement of the chase,  and the fulfillment of being desired.  The heightened frenzy that is present when you are in that creative mode, and not having a defined road map, but just knowing that you are headed for Nirvana. 

And then I got present to the fact that there I was sitting in a car with a gorgeous human being, but it was the love of business and just how damn sexy it is that was getting me going. Even now, just thinking about how I can lose my inhibitions and fully step into what's possible blows me away.

Apparently, I am not alone in feeling this way.  I am not the only one who takes on business as a lover of sort.  The fabulous Mr. Jonathon Fields wrote a poem for our shared love.

A Love Poem for Entrepreneurs

If you have lost that loving feeling for your business, check to see if you are with holding from it.  Take it on the way that you would a love interest and see what sparks.

I am yours.  Will you be mine?

No, I am not talking about giving the HR department something to come talk to you about.  I am talking about what would it look like to flirt with your business goals and objectives, potential clients, and even collaborators.

Mary Boiselle from Seattle's Ace of Dates recently wrote an article on flirting do's and don'ts and as I read it I couldn't help but to think about how much fun it is to flirt with life.  The I wondered what that would look like if we flirting in our businesses...hmmmm- sounds fun, right?!

In flirting with someone, we all know to catch their eye.  Mary suggests to connect your eyes with someone and if they hold eye contact that they are interested- this holds true for your business affairs as well.  I'm not saying that we should attract our next client by locking and holding a smoldering look for them across the conference room, but instead make sure that when you are in a meeting with someone (even if just coffee), make sure that they know that you are interested by maintaining eye contact.  If it is a project or idea this will be a bit conceptual.  Try looking at the project and imagine it looking right back at you with all that it is and all that it is not...hold that gaze...are you still interested?

Now lean in- get closer to them.  I couldn't have said it any better "Lean in toward the object of your desire".  In our businesses, we get that everything is personal.  By leaning in, we make it even more so.   If leaning into an idea, you get to check it out a bit before jumping in.  Gazing at it... checking it out... do I wanna?  I mean, I know that I could.  It could be fun.  I wonder where this could go.

We all know when a smile is real or not.  When there are smiles at the meeting table- and not those "It's been great having this opportunity to speak with you" but thinking "Damn, I gotta get out of here" smiles, you know that you are headed in the right direction. 

And if you are smiling even after leaning into that business idea and googling at each other- GO TO THE NEXT LEVEL, BABY!  Have some fun and give the world something to talk about.

Pay attention to Mary's Flirting Don'ts- they can destroy whatever possibility that was there for that business opportunity despite whatever intentions that you may have.

*Note- if in doubt, try Integrity.  

Mary Boiselle is the founder of The Ace of Dates located in Seattle, WA.  The Ace of Dates supports you in carrying out any date to perfection – whether an ordinary Tuesday night, or a big anniversary or event.