Last night I was talking to a friend about the flirtatiousness of being in business: the leaning into it, do I want them, do they want me, the contact, the thrill of anticipation.  Last month I wrote a short piece about this very thing- you can check it out here. 

And, within seconds, I felt the rush of passion.  You know the one that starts deep within, as I spoke more about it.  The sensation that I got just thinking about the excitement of the chase,  and the fulfillment of being desired.  The heightened frenzy that is present when you are in that creative mode, and not having a defined road map, but just knowing that you are headed for Nirvana. 

And then I got present to the fact that there I was sitting in a car with a gorgeous human being, but it was the love of business and just how damn sexy it is that was getting me going. Even now, just thinking about how I can lose my inhibitions and fully step into what's possible blows me away.

Apparently, I am not alone in feeling this way.  I am not the only one who takes on business as a lover of sort.  The fabulous Mr. Jonathon Fields wrote a poem for our shared love.

A Love Poem for Entrepreneurs

If you have lost that loving feeling for your business, check to see if you are with holding from it.  Take it on the way that you would a love interest and see what sparks.

I am yours.  Will you be mine?

I am hearing everyone pitching "How to Overcome Your Fears" or "Conquer the Unknown" and a host of other self-help titles around fear. Here's the thing (I'm going piss off some folks in my field with this) You can not make fear disappear.  And, the likelihood of you going at it alone and making that fear your bitch it damn hard- at best.

To add insult to injury, when you check these folks out who want you to shell out a shit ton of cash for their 12 Steps to Fearless Freedom, it turns out to be the slimy guy that you saw last weekend at the car dealership.  Or they are the wife living in California who has always lived in the land of Suburbia and hasn't lived much of life or even gets what living really is anyhow. 

Short and sweet- the fear is not going anywhere.  Deal with it.   You can quiver in the corner and go on to some pity party but that is not going to get you anywhere.  You want to achieve something but you are scared?  Suck it up.  You're afraid of looking dumb?  Well, you might.  And you may still end up doing amazing shit while being absofuckinglutely brilliant, but looking dumb, in the process.

Here's the deal:  Our world is in a heap of trouble.  Whether your sights are on your hyperlocal community, your hometown, national education issues, The Detroit Renaissance, Haiti, Egypt, or where ever, things are not going to shift by all of us getting stopped by our fear.  Your fear is not going anywhere.  So fuque it.  You can go and do what you need to do and come back to handle it later. 

Oh wait.  You mean, after you stopped letting it stop you then it headed for the hills by the time that you come back for it?  Look again.  The fear is still there.  It is just choosing to go by a different name.  Or it could be the same name but is now in a different area of your life.  See- it's not going anywhere.  And those of us that move around in life as though fear is never present?  Oh it's there alright.  We just say "Fear?  Fuque it!" because we have other things to do.

*As I write this my life is turning upside down and is filled to the gills with uncertainty.  I am relocating after my husband and I have chosen to separate, my teenager is beyond pissed at the thought of  changing schools, and I am in the position of make it or break it with my business.  Every time that I have needed to deal with my fears, I have just done whatever there was to do.  So here it is again- scared as hell and looking for what there is to do to have a life and business that I am head over heels, completely mad about!  And you bet your sweet ass I have a coach- I don't have time to get stopped.

Sneak Peak:  Handle Yo Bidness

Handle Yo Bidness is a series of four workshops that are live and in person.  No teleseminars, no webcasts.  They are intimate conversations that are real.

1. Make Your Inner Bitch Your Bitch*- You don't have to listen to her anymore when she tells you that you suck and you are going to fail anyhow. *not limited to women.

2. Tell Me Whatchu Want, Whatchu Really Really Want- No more "I don't know" Know what you ACTUALLY want to be/feel/have

3. Boundaries:  Use 'Em or Lose 'Em- Getting clear about what you are willing to do and what you will tolerate 

4. Put Up or Shut Up- Finding that illusive time for what you actually care about. The Un-Corporate version of time management.

The series will be rolling out in the Seattle Metro area in the very near future.  Not in Seattle?  Don't worry- working on a travel edition of it.  Sign up below if you would like more information sent to you when the venue and dates are available or if you have other questions.