I know, I know. We have heard this time and time again. And, one thing that I know to be true- is that knowing makes no difference. So let me clear, I am not telling you this thinking that you have never heard it before. I am telling you this because I want to remind you of it and then have you play with it in your life.
This very moment, this one right here, is the only one that we know that we have for sure. It reminds me of the Crystal Pepsi commercial from 1993. You know, the one that Van Halen ( circa Sammy) did for them. "Right now, there's no tomorrow. Right now, it means everything...". The video is at the bottom of this post and is pretty cool to watch to actually. But I digress...
We don’t know what will happen later this year, or hell, later this evening in some
cases. Why would we not choose to be content with, or even go for broke and be blissed out with, whatever we are doing at this moment? I mean, we do get
to choose after all.
You have right now to make an impression on someone. You have right now to make a difference in someone’s life. The great thing is you get to be in control, for the most part, as to what difference that you get to make.
For you overachievers out there- if you want to go beyond just this, this
is a great question to take on for your life work. You are natural leaders and leaders are those who create opportunities for others. What opportunity do you want to create for others in the world? Hmmm…perhaps a career change may spark out of
But it's when you are pissed off and feeling like crap about something that you are least to remember that right? Well, grab a notecard and write on it whatever it is that you are committed to and put it in your pocket. Break it out and take a look at it from time to time throughout the day- then choose your actions that are in alignment with that. THERE WILL BE TIMES WHEN YOU DON’T DO THIS- don’t beat yourself up over it. I know that you want something different, or more of something in your life or business. Creating it is creating a habit. Take a look at this...habits are hard to break. We know this. If you have been sitting on your ass about an idea, the habit of sitting on your ass exists and it is going to be a bitch to break it.
*Note- To make it last, you have to get some consistent time in the saddle.
Nevertheless…Breathe…Let go…Now remind yourself that this very moment is the only one that you know you have for sure. Go be your best! Like, NOW!
On your mark. Get set. GO
Sure we all set our best intentions of finally fulfilling those New Year's resolutions. This 30 day habit forming, challenge, campaign, project will support you in playing a bigger game in life AND assist you in realizing those damn resolutions once and for all!
For 30 days you commit to living your best life. I did not say perfect and I did not say that you will do it effortlessly or that you will not get stuck. Of course it will be challenging and you will likely get stuck- which is why I am here to support you in actualizing this! I will be sending out emails to you with tips and tools for you to put into practice. Though some may be confronting, and down right a pain in the ass, none will be actually painful- I promise.
What do you need to do?
Sign up below. Buy a planner (from any office supply store) to carry with you at all times or use your handy dandy smartphone. Read the emails. Put the tools into practice. At the end of each week, look back at what differences was made. Period. That easy.
Why should you do it?
Because you deserve it! You get to experience yourself and our world in a whole new way. And, of course, because you have nothing to lose- it's free.
At any point, feel free to email me and let me know what your experience is. What are some new things opening up for you or things that you are really confronted with- both will likely occur!
Ok- so who's in?
Funny how there are a few C words out there. Each one of them has the potential to illicit a physical draw back. But the one that impacts us as business owners- as well as in life- is Commitment.
I was having a conversation about being committed to an idea and was asked if I was committed or attached to it. Attached being defined as when the result or answer is not what we want then there is an upset or frustration. It typically ends up making one of, or all of, the parties feel like crap. If you were committed, then when you didn't get the desired answer or result, you would simply look for another way- no upset, no tantrums.
Ok- so far I'm right there- completely following it. Then there it was...WE are the ones who get to say what we are committed to. And if we say that we are committed to something being realized, then when we don't immediately get what we want what there is to do is remind ourselves that it is a commitment- always needing to be created in language/conversations and backed up by actions.
So what is it that gets us so damn worked up about that C word anyhow? Well, if we are actually committed to something, we are only because we say that we are. We are responsible then for it. It sort of takes our reason to complain to anyone who will listen away. It also means that if we share with folks about that which we are committed to, then we are expected to be in action around that. Hrrmmm...now responsible is in the mix.
Check it out...
My business is committed to having a thriving local community. First thing to get is that I am the one that identified what my business is committed to. In other words, I say what is important to me. Second, I don't get to throw a tantrum or be upset when things aren't coming up roses. That is counter productive- wastes time and makes people look at you funny. Trust me on this one. Just take a breathe- and look around for another approach. And third, I get to be in action in anything that supports a thriving business community!
When you are present that you really are committed to something- and not using it as a strategy, you also tend to get stopped less. Stopped less=more results, faster. And that whole responsible part- sure you are then cause when there are failures but you are the cause for then things are really rockin' too!
What are you committed to?
Funny how you live your life by one creed and then find yourself saying the exact opposite later. When my kids would ask me about something my reply was that it was possible, but not probable. It would look like this: "Mom, can we go to Disney next month?". My reply would be that it was possible but not probable. Little did I know that I was training them to play it safe in life and steer clear of possibility.
In possibility, we acknowledge that something could happen but we have no clue as to how it will come to be. As a generality, we don't like not knowing. It makes us look bad and we never want to look bad. We stay nice and safe in Probabilitiville. We know how things will go there- it is the same way that it has gone for however many years and we find a sense of comfort there.
And now here is the contradiction- our humanness loves ritual and sameness but our Human Spirit craves something more. Now you get to choose which is more important to you. Are you comfortable and content with everything in your life or business as it is right now or do you want something more, something that you have never had? Go on...I'll wait...choose. Nothing is wrong with either one. Your life and your choice.
OK- then off we go, returning to Land of What's Possible. I say returning to because we once lived here. It was likely when you were a child before someone who lived in Probabilitiville told you that something wasn't possible. When you think of what is possible, think outrageous stuff. Willy Wonka and Dr. Seuss comes to mind for me: chocolate rivers and a night in Na-Nupp where the birds are asleep and three moons are up. Don't get caught up in how it can be- just let the idea of it be. Like or not we can't single-handedly know everything, but if we started talking about the idea of chocolate rivers long enough, someone out there is bound to know how to do it or at the very least want to figure a way to create it with you. Yeah, I know- talk about chocolate rivers and three moons in the sky and people are going to think that you're nuts. Well I've got news for you, there is at least one person in the world that already thinks that about you and Chicago has already found a way to make their river green for St. Patrick's Day! Now down to business.
Think about what could be possible for your life or your business. Since we already got the wacky notions out there, complete with Oompaloompas or whatever outrageousness that you came up with, it is easier to see what is possible for you. Here's where that confronting question "What do I want" likes to pop up. Don't get caught up in the how of it no matter how tempting it is. Just let the idea of it be for now. Could you be in love? Could you double your sales? Could you actually be inspired about life again? Could you break into a new market? Could you start singing at the jazz club on Sunday nights with that quartet?
How would you need to be for you to have that? Would you need to humble, confident, vulnerable? What would you need to do in order to have that idea actualized? If you already know what to do to have it, congratulations- GO GET IN ACTION! Find a coach or consultant that you can relate to and you will get that idea actualized faster and you will stay out of The Rut. If you have no idea of what to do in order to actualize the idea, perfect- START A CONVERSATION about it (a conversation does not exist in your head, those are thoughts). Talk to someone who already lives in the Land of What's Possible. They are more likely to listen to and support you than the residents of Probabilitiville. After all, the folks there have come to know you for a very long time and would hate to lose a resident.
My game? My game is to make Probabilitiville a ghost town and to live in, and contribute to, the thriving community of Land of What's Possible. It is here in Land of What's Possible that we will be able to change the probable course of our world- it is here that our world leaders will come from.
Now that my kids are older, they ask different questions. When they ask about whether they can make the honor roll, get that part in the play, career choices, colleges, or the possibility to make a change in the world, my answer is much different. Now we start talking about the actions to take to actualize what they want.
Note: You need not be a child or young adult to live in possibility- you only need to be breathing and have a desire. What do you desire?